Pinkdot 2010

Yes­ter­day evening we brought Kai with us to Hong Lim Park to help make a big pink dot in sup­port of the country’s gay and les­bian community.

We didn’t actu­ally get to be part of the human for­ma­tion that was pho­tographed, because Kai was busy prac­tic­ing walk­ing, his hands held by two of his favourite aunties.

But we were glad we attended. Because while this year’s Pink Dot “hon­ours kin­ship and fam­ily — in sup­port and recog­ni­tion of… rel­a­tives and friends of Les­bian, Gay, Bisex­ual and Trans­gen­der (LGBT) Sin­ga­pore­ans”, Naomi and I really want to thank our friends who’ve shown us so much love and affec­tion all through our mar­riage and hav­ing Kai.

To any­one who has the mis­for­tune of hav­ing been led to think that to sup­port the rights of the LGBT com­mu­nity is tan­ta­mount to shun­ning fam­ily val­ues should take a look at my brand new fam­ily — we are so loved by our friends — gay, straight or whatever.

Apart from a Godma, Kai has a “Butch Mama” and a “Fairy God­fa­ther” among his many, many aun­ties and uncles who dote on him and his parents.

All I have to do is look at the bas­ket of toys and dresser full of clothes that belong to Kai — the major­ity of them have been given by our LGBT super­hero friends, who also come by and play with our son as often as work allows them. I can’t imag­ine our life with­out these friends of ours.

We are really grate­ful for the sup­port, love and under­stand­ing that our gay and les­bian friends have given us in build­ing our fam­ily. So, for us, Pink Dot is about rec­og­niz­ing you, for the roles you play in Kai’s, Naomi’s and my life.